Shopping Basket
Your Basket is Empty
There was an error with PayPalClick here to try again
CelebrateThank you for your business!You should receive an order confirmation from Paypal shortly.Exit Shopping Basket

Always a Voice

Empowering Survivors of Abuse & Trauma

Thought Spot

Thought Spot

Part II- The Art of Active Healing: Perspective

Posted on 16 August, 2017 at 14:50

During the month of August, we are focusing on learning how to tap into the truth we already have inside us and go all out in what I call a “full-thrive”. We will continue to discuss what it means to walk in strength, peace, power and joy—during our healing process and within the boiling pot of imperfection and pain.


It’s so easy to get imprisoned in the quagmire of what was—of all that happened! Of what we didn’t do. Of what we know we should’ve done. But there is good news!

Anytime we are seeking growth in any area, there are always things we can do to cultivate our goals. It is so important to focus on practical ways we can nurture healing. Remember that every major change is accompanied by hard work and "pre-commitment". And it requires us to change our perspective. But we have to want to.

What is your identity? Is it your pain/trauma? Has being a "victim" crowded out the YOU you were meant to be?

There are many situations in life that are out of our realm and control. Many things are not in our jurisdictions/job descriptions or responsibilities. For example, you can’t make it stop raining. If your home has already been repossessed, any amount of “changing your perspective” is not going to bring it back to you. It is not our decision to make. These unchangeables of life fall outside the box of what we can do.

There are countless unwanted scenarios/memories in each of our lives that we simply cannot change. And most of those hard situations are the cause of our depression and stagnation.

I firmly believe we must live ON PURPOSE. Growth requires planning, plotting and cultivation. Once again: every major change is accompanied by hard work and "pre-commitment". WHY? Because the mere fact that we need a "change" implies that there is already something else that exists...that needs to be re-done, re-worked, eradicated, uprooted, re-born, revitalized...

TODAY'S QUESTION(S): What is it you TRULY want? Do you want to be an overcomer? What is the alternative? Remaining a victim is a choice all survivors have. It is easy to become comfortable with our tag of “victim” and merely survive on the pity of others. Or worse, we can become dependent on the resulting turmoil and unhappiness of our pasts—without even knowing it.

This week as you are pondering your past and struggling to make sense of it all, I invite you to let go. Release the terrible pressure of trying to figure it all out. You are here now—and you are here for a reason! I encourage you to accept the fact that your trauma/abuse was not your choosing. It was not remotely your fault.

As you continue to park here on these thoughts, I encourage you to resist the temptation to blame, fix, tweak or manipulate anything in your mind. That even includes the “fall-out years”, following your abuse/trauma. This “letting go” is nothing more than just breathing in—deeply—and embracing YOU. Your whole self—with the pain. Not inspite of it. Because of it!

Currently I am Mrs. District of Columbia US Continental 2017. When I donned my sash and crown, this did not magically turn me into a queen. Who I am—ME—was not intrinsically altered at that moment. The sash and crown were placed on me. They did not change or define who I already was or who I truly am. In the same way that my sash and crown did not/does not make me a queen, the pain and abuse that was placed on me did not/does not alter who I am. Who I was born to be.

There is a future aspect to this thought. My title as Mrs. District of Columbia does not alter who I was or who I am, but it will alter what I am able to accomplish with my life from here forward. I can choose to use this title as a megaphone to implement change—to be a louder voice to STOP THE SILENCE and perpetuation of sexual abuse and trauma. But that is entirely up to me. In the same way, I can choose to use the abuse/pain I have experienced as tools of change. Because of my life experiences, I possess empathy, compassion and understanding. There is beauty and power in taking back the ground that has been stolen from us!

This is the essense of empowerment!

“Perspective makes all the difference. It’s not what you look at; it’s what you see… Remember that the sun never actually sets; it's our perspective that makes it appear to. Our sunset is another’s sunrise. It's all perspective. How would your life be different if you applied this truth to the things that cause you stress? Letting go isn’t about erasing the past; it’s about looking at the same event and seeing something different. Activate this power in your life! Take the pain and poison of the past and allow it to nourish a new found wisdom. Remember, you can't change the past, but you can change the labels you place on events. Perspective - it’s not what you look at; it’s what you see.” ~ Steve Maraboli

Last week I touched briefly on ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and how they affect our health. Here is an excerpt from last week’s discussion:

“As it pertains to our past abuse, it is truly imperative that we address and embrace our trauma as we would any other major illness, disease or injury. If you were diagnosed with diabetes today, you would be wise to take your diagnosis seriously if you want to live a healthy and happy life. You might be encouraged to make necessary dietary changes or begin an exercise program. You might even join a support group—especially if you were struggling to accept your diagnosis.

Emotional, sexual and/or spiritual abuse are life-altering experiences. These Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) are no less traumatic or impactful to our physical bodies than other more physical forms of trauma—such as diabetes and other health-related issues.”

In keeping with the fact that childhood traumas are relevant to our ongoing health, I want to take a moment to stress a very important element. It is of utmost importance for you to have strong, positive mentors in place who can and will assist you. If you haven’t already, I urge you to find a trusted counselor/therapist who can help guide you as you change your perspective and grow in realization and awakening. Seeking help is not weak—it is wise!

It is our natural instinct to love and protect ourselves. The existence of these amazing survival apps within our bodies is the very reason we are struggling to conquer—to erupt—and rise above our painful childhoods or our years of “disconnect”!

Giving yourself permission to change your perspective is one of the most powerful decisions you will ever make. Healing is a process—a journey—and YOU are at the helm of your own progress!

Categories: None

Post a Comment


Oops, you forgot something.


The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.

Already a member? Sign In


Reply Randyspasp
23:09 on 17 June, 2021 
viamedic cialis cialis india pharmacy cialis commercial
cialis trial coupon purchase cialis online cialis capsule price
Reply Ahbztweli
14:31 on 16 February, 2021 
payday loans galveston texas cash advance loans durham nc eagle finance payday loans
Reply Labxtweli
6:46 on 13 February, 2021 
how to obtain prescription for cialis cialis viagra mischen cialis generika kaufen erfahrung
Reply Jbbntweli
1:24 on 13 February, 2021 
costo pillole cialis online pharmacy for cialis cialis or viagra
Reply AbcfAlopsisse
23:57 on 12 February, 2021 
viagra to buy online yourstabs viagra viagra without prescription in australia
Reply Kuikhaste
17:41 on 7 February, 2021 
viagra paypal aust viagra samples from doctor professional viagra
Reply FvfcReode
10:21 on 7 February, 2021 
chep viagra pharmacy intern viagra paypal
Reply AqcfAlopsisse
23:53 on 5 February, 2021 
cialis south africa buy brand cialis cialis sale
Reply Ahmdtweli
0:10 on 2 February, 2021 
cialis dapoxetine overnight shipment Viagra Plus dapoxetine with cialis - Florinef ’
Reply Jnscnitly
17:31 on 31 January, 2021 
viagra for sell canada viagra buy viagra online free shipping - where to buy viagra in singapore ’
Reply NgscReode
12:58 on 31 January, 2021 
viagra buy online viagra tablets pharmacy sildenafil gel
- viagra for sale cheap ’
Reply FhnhReode
9:36 on 29 January, 2021 
Isoptin prescription drugs from canada online Voveran - canadian pharmacies that are legit ’
Reply Ahmdtweli
16:56 on 27 January, 2021 
cialis black 800mg cialis for daily use disount cheapest generic cialis online - buy cialis paypal ’
Reply Lbgtweli
12:53 on 26 January, 2021 
what\'s the difference in viagra viagra in india chennai discover card and viagra - genericx viagra ’
Reply Jnhnitly
11:31 on 26 January, 2021 
cialis viagra cocktail online cialis no prescription cialis with dapoxetine - generic of cialis ’
Reply Jdbxtweli
11:14 on 25 January, 2021 
viagra dapoxetine samples viagra viagra online 100mg - viagra in canada ’
Reply Kbctheri
14:16 on 21 January, 2021 
cheap cialis pills men supreme suppliers cialis cialis online europe - cialis usa ’
Reply NlbxReode
11:29 on 21 January, 2021 
low cost cialis generic cialis uk generic cialis 20 mg x 30 - cheap cialis ’
Reply Jvcxnitly
7:49 on 17 January, 2021 
viagra\\ viagra professional scam generic viagra in canada viagra on line\\ viagra alternatives in india dsicount viagra buy generic viagra online best online sites for viagra online viagra montreal viagra no prescription viagra buy payoal where to buy viagra in melbourne viagra next day delivery uk paypal viagra in canada viagra cialis on line parmacy
Reply NlbxReode
10:49 on 16 January, 2021 
viagra buy online viagra online viagra 4 pack viagra jet viagra levitra cialis which works better? viagra where to buy in malaysia viagra mit paypal zahlen generic viagra 100mg viagra for sale melbourne viagra canada sydney viagra prices best viagra alternatives best cheap website for viagra how to buy viagra melbourne brand viagra overnight shipping