Category: Blog Spot for Teens

~By Danielle S., (17 yr. old Writer and Survivor of Abuse)

As a victim of sexual abuse, I had a major piece of my privacy taken from me. What I considered the closest, most intimate part of me was stolen by the selfish decisions of another. And if that wasn't enough, it got worse. Once I spoke up, my privacy was unveiled for everyone to see. How shameful! I wasn't a 'normal' person anymore.

Everywhere I went, my problem went with me. The crime, case, and details followed me around to church, school, family reunions, even out in town. I couldn't help but feel like everyone in the world seemed to know all about my problems. I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything that involved leaving the house. I wanted to stay far away from everyone and everything that would have any questions, opinions, judgments, or even sympathy for me. I thought I would never feel comfortable with how others saw me ever again. I felt wherever I went my situation became the main focus. I felt when I walked into a room there was a projector on my head illuminating the words "SEXUAL ABUSE VICTIM" and that everyone saw it and had to give their input. Even the pastor at the church I attend preached sermons about how to respond to the situation! How would I handle this for the rest of my life?!  I had no idea.

Does any of this sound familiar?  I have good news for you! Nothing lasts forever! Yes, your situation may seem like the center of attention for a few months after the initial release of information, but "this too shall pass!" Yes, people who know you are going to, when they see you, be reminded of your situation... for awhile. However, if someone's everyday life is not directly affected by something, chances are, its not always their main focus.

Always remember: You are still a NORMAL person! What happened to you can't define you, unless you let it. You don't have to be ashamed! You can live a life as full as you would've without any changes. Even more, you can be proud that you are succeeding and that you have the opportunity to help someone else who may be in a similar situation.

Hold your head high and be the person you were made to be!